The word "soulmate" has always held a charm of its own for me. Strangely enough i realized that everytime i think of a "soulmate" i associate it with romance or love. Is it just the hopelesss romantic side of me coming to the forefront or does the connotation of the word soulmate actualy relate purely to love and romance?
In instances like this it must be said that the Oxford dictionary is absolutely inadequate!! It defines soulmate as "a person idealy suited to one another". Like we so didnt know that:P But this definition once again relates it almost immediately to notions of romantic love and the "other person" invariably becomes a husband or lover.( at least that is how i see it)
Not satisfied with the oxford definition of "soulmate" i decided to do a google search and for my luck i found exactly what i was looking for!!
The term soulmate is defined in one particular website "as a word used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy , sexuality and/or compatibility." Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. They can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental, games of third dimension with you. They can affect relationships in a positive or negative way depending on the emotional issues of the people concerned.". It further goes to say that you feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them!!
What actualy got me thinking about this particular subject were two things. One was the fact that i have recently developed the habit of continualy analysing the relationships that i have with the people around me. It amazes me as to how close i have grown to some people im my life. People who before i met them i never even knew existed or even if i did never even imagined would turn out to be my closest confidantes. It's strange how virtual strangers cross our paths, enter our lives and become so much a part of us that it comes to a point when you wonder how you ever got on with life without them! What amazes me most is how with some people you feel this almost instantaneous bond, you reach a comfort level that you may not even have reached with your oldest friend. You feel as if you've known each other forever. Its an unexplainable feeling but its almost as if you've found a long lost friend.
The second thing that got me thinking about the concept of soulmates was a discussion i had with one of my buddhist friends regarding karma. Even though being a fervent catholic myself i strangely believ in the concept of karma and rebirth as opposed to the christian belief of heaven.The concept of rebirth where our souls take the form of another life after death seems more probable to me than the christian belief that the soul finds eternal rest in heaven.
After a discussion on karma and how we carry it on to our next lives as preached in Buddhism , I came to the conclsion that karma, rebirth and soulmates are interlinked. It finaly provided an answer to many of my questions like why we are instantaneously attracted to certain people and likwise why we take an almost instant dilike to others.
I believe that when our human bodies die our soul travels into another sphere and is thus reborn as another being- be it human or animal- depending on the karma of our previous birth! My friend also enlightened me that its not only the bad karma that follows us to our next birth but also the good karma or the results of our good actions here on earth. So where does the concept of soulmates fit in then?
I believe and this is purely my assumption, that we feel closer to certain people more than others because its a bond we carry on from our previous births. It may sound silly or somewhat unbelievable but i do believ that certain people whom we share close bonds with are souls with whom we shared a close affinty in some manner in our past lives.
It could also be that you feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them.
It now makes sense that I feel closer to some people and take an almost instant dislike to some. Their just not on the same frequency as I am!!:P
Its strange when you think about it eh? But it actualy makes alot of sense to this confused self who despite having a million other things to focus her attention on is constantly perplexed by the strangeness of certain relationships.
Its amazing how we seem to "click" with certain people depite having a multitude of differences. Its amazing how these strangers become an indispensable part of our lives.
I'm now convinced that the concept of "soulmates" cannot be merely restricted to the sphere of romantic love. Ofcourse some of us are lucky enough to find our soulmates in our lovers and husbands while some others may find their's in their best friend, in their ex lovers , their siblings or even for that matter in a mentor like a teacher or an elder.
Its not just love that binds two souls together. its friendship,intimacy and a deep natural affinity to each other. It's the stuff that soulmates are made up of:)
"Soul mates can bring out the best and worst in each other, depending on their issues, and often no matter how hard someone tries to hold on and help, the lesson is to let go. "- that explains alot doesnt it"!
Good luck finding your soulmate/s:)
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Friday, January 15, 2010
Love - Kahlil Gibran
When love beckons to you, follow him,
though his ways are hard and steep.
and when his wings enfold you yield to him,
though the swords hidden among his pinions may wound you.
and when he speaks to you believe in him,
though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
si shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
he threshes you to make you naked.
he sifts you to free you from your husks.
he grinds you to whiteness.
he kneads you until you are pliant;
and then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would be possessed;
for love is sufficient unto love.
and think not that you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
to melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
to know the pain of too much tenderness.
to be wounded by your own understanding of love;
and to bleed willingly and joyfully.
to wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
to rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
to return home at eventide with gratitude;
and then go to sleep with a prayer for your beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
though his ways are hard and steep.
and when his wings enfold you yield to him,
though the swords hidden among his pinions may wound you.
and when he speaks to you believe in him,
though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
si shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
he threshes you to make you naked.
he sifts you to free you from your husks.
he grinds you to whiteness.
he kneads you until you are pliant;
and then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would be possessed;
for love is sufficient unto love.
and think not that you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
to melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
to know the pain of too much tenderness.
to be wounded by your own understanding of love;
and to bleed willingly and joyfully.
to wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
to rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
to return home at eventide with gratitude;
and then go to sleep with a prayer for your beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
2010:)
Dear blog
It's been ages eh..im kinda bored with you now! i mean i have nothing more to say, no more depressing thoughts, no more K!!
anyways i thought i should make use of you to write down my new year resolutions. I'm all enthusiastic about the new year at the moment but thats coz its new and we all know that new brooms sweep well! LOL! so just in case somewhere down the line i forget my resolutions "jodaykelle@blogspot.com" will be there to remind me of what i ought to remember. so here goes..
resolution no 1- reduce consumption of coke!
resolution no 2- DO NOT FALL IN LOVE
resolution no 3- will not let my life revolve around anyone however nice they may be!
resolution no 4- be happy
resolution no 5- doing alot of extra reading for uni
resolution no 6- find at least 3 new friends
resolution no 7- dare to do something different:)
hmmm thats about it. its quite an interesting list i think. i do hope that i will be able to stick to it. especialy to no 2!!!
I sometimes wonder what surprises 2010 will hold for me. at the beginning of 2009 i never expected that soo much would happen. that my life would change in soo many ways. I do know that there'll be many to come.the good and the bad! but this time i'm prepared for what ever may come my way. thats the difference between the pri of 2009 and the pri of 2010! I know that this year im not going to make the same mistakes i made last year. I will make new ones and learn from them but never repeat the old ones!
I'm not oblivious to the fact that people will drift apart from me this year as well. That's life. people drift apart. a precious few remain. They are your true friends and they are the only people i have room for in my life this year.
Selfish as this may sound, this year I have decided that i will not let my life revolve around anyone but myself!!! Cos the one person who i can totaly depend on is prinny and she's all that matters to me! And i do sincerely hope that noone lets their lives revolve around me either coz jeez thats gonna be a disaster indeed!!
Last year I was foolish enough to depend on another for happiness. Today i realize that one's happiness depends on one's self! It is only you who can decide whether your going to move on with life, enjoy the good things, count ur blessings and make the most of everything life has to give you! OR stay stuck in your own misery, stubbornly refusing to move on. Human beings are soo fickle, and vulnerable thats its not fair of us to rely on them for our happiness. If someone lets you down its not their fault after all. they are just being human. I wouldnt want anyone placing their happiness in my hands coz i know that i could never live up to their expecatations. It was a pity that i expected soo much from one person. it was all i knew at the time...
I made a lot of mistakes last year. Being too nice was one of them. Not listening to Wendy was another! But amidst all the mistakes i made one wise decision. It was probably the hardest decision i ever made but today if theres one thing i'm glad about its that i took that one step to drift apart and not hold on to something that was never mine to begin with. It broke my heart to burn the broken bridge but today happy blue is back coz I took the initiative to do it.:)
I do miss him at times. i guess in a way i always will. The anger and bitterness that i once had towards him is now no more. it dissolved with the new year. I buried the past. I realize now, that after all he never did anything so wrong that i need to harbour resentment against him for the rest of my life. He made a mistake. So did i! It was noones mistake. It was just the way things were meant to be. He will always have a very fond place in my heart coz deep inside i know that he will always be one of the nicest boys i have ever met. The pearls will always be a reminder. I do sincerely hope that 2010 will be an year of opportunities for him. He has remained on the bench long enough..carried far too many water bottles and just like everyone else he deserves to have his dream come true too. I do hope that luck will be on his side and that he'll make it to the squad soon.
My life or my happiness no longer revolves around you K...i miss you.
For the first time in a long time i'm realy realy happy! and i do hope that this happiness lasts. I feel free and the pain of the past seems to have vanished almost completly. I have finaly found the peace that i was looking for soo desparately. Happy Blue is back:)
Nothing in life comes easy. there's a price you have to pay for everything.Things have to be given up..goodbyes must be said. Nothing worth the having can be won without a tear:)
The one good thing that happend to me last year was that i met the most AMAZING bunch of friends ever. The friends i made last year are probably the best i have ever made! and something tells me that they are not the kind who will drift apart. Some of my strongest bonds were formed last year..those bonds are what have helped me survive. They brought happy blue back:)
Today as i write this i feel happy and content..I no longer feel lost, lonely and empty.
2010 has a lot to offer. new hopes, new dreams, new goals.
This year i will not let anyone steal my happinesss from me. I've promised myself that!!!
bring it on 2010...happy blue cant wait to see what surprises you have for her!
P.s- geez i hope santa doesnt plan on having any tea parties for his raindeer mates and invite me too! GEEZ LOUISE:P lol:)
It's been ages eh..im kinda bored with you now! i mean i have nothing more to say, no more depressing thoughts, no more K!!
anyways i thought i should make use of you to write down my new year resolutions. I'm all enthusiastic about the new year at the moment but thats coz its new and we all know that new brooms sweep well! LOL! so just in case somewhere down the line i forget my resolutions "jodaykelle@blogspot.com" will be there to remind me of what i ought to remember. so here goes..
resolution no 1- reduce consumption of coke!
resolution no 2- DO NOT FALL IN LOVE
resolution no 3- will not let my life revolve around anyone however nice they may be!
resolution no 4- be happy
resolution no 5- doing alot of extra reading for uni
resolution no 6- find at least 3 new friends
resolution no 7- dare to do something different:)
hmmm thats about it. its quite an interesting list i think. i do hope that i will be able to stick to it. especialy to no 2!!!
I sometimes wonder what surprises 2010 will hold for me. at the beginning of 2009 i never expected that soo much would happen. that my life would change in soo many ways. I do know that there'll be many to come.the good and the bad! but this time i'm prepared for what ever may come my way. thats the difference between the pri of 2009 and the pri of 2010! I know that this year im not going to make the same mistakes i made last year. I will make new ones and learn from them but never repeat the old ones!
I'm not oblivious to the fact that people will drift apart from me this year as well. That's life. people drift apart. a precious few remain. They are your true friends and they are the only people i have room for in my life this year.
Selfish as this may sound, this year I have decided that i will not let my life revolve around anyone but myself!!! Cos the one person who i can totaly depend on is prinny and she's all that matters to me! And i do sincerely hope that noone lets their lives revolve around me either coz jeez thats gonna be a disaster indeed!!
Last year I was foolish enough to depend on another for happiness. Today i realize that one's happiness depends on one's self! It is only you who can decide whether your going to move on with life, enjoy the good things, count ur blessings and make the most of everything life has to give you! OR stay stuck in your own misery, stubbornly refusing to move on. Human beings are soo fickle, and vulnerable thats its not fair of us to rely on them for our happiness. If someone lets you down its not their fault after all. they are just being human. I wouldnt want anyone placing their happiness in my hands coz i know that i could never live up to their expecatations. It was a pity that i expected soo much from one person. it was all i knew at the time...
I made a lot of mistakes last year. Being too nice was one of them. Not listening to Wendy was another! But amidst all the mistakes i made one wise decision. It was probably the hardest decision i ever made but today if theres one thing i'm glad about its that i took that one step to drift apart and not hold on to something that was never mine to begin with. It broke my heart to burn the broken bridge but today happy blue is back coz I took the initiative to do it.:)
I do miss him at times. i guess in a way i always will. The anger and bitterness that i once had towards him is now no more. it dissolved with the new year. I buried the past. I realize now, that after all he never did anything so wrong that i need to harbour resentment against him for the rest of my life. He made a mistake. So did i! It was noones mistake. It was just the way things were meant to be. He will always have a very fond place in my heart coz deep inside i know that he will always be one of the nicest boys i have ever met. The pearls will always be a reminder. I do sincerely hope that 2010 will be an year of opportunities for him. He has remained on the bench long enough..carried far too many water bottles and just like everyone else he deserves to have his dream come true too. I do hope that luck will be on his side and that he'll make it to the squad soon.
My life or my happiness no longer revolves around you K...i miss you.
For the first time in a long time i'm realy realy happy! and i do hope that this happiness lasts. I feel free and the pain of the past seems to have vanished almost completly. I have finaly found the peace that i was looking for soo desparately. Happy Blue is back:)
Nothing in life comes easy. there's a price you have to pay for everything.Things have to be given up..goodbyes must be said. Nothing worth the having can be won without a tear:)
The one good thing that happend to me last year was that i met the most AMAZING bunch of friends ever. The friends i made last year are probably the best i have ever made! and something tells me that they are not the kind who will drift apart. Some of my strongest bonds were formed last year..those bonds are what have helped me survive. They brought happy blue back:)
Today as i write this i feel happy and content..I no longer feel lost, lonely and empty.
2010 has a lot to offer. new hopes, new dreams, new goals.
This year i will not let anyone steal my happinesss from me. I've promised myself that!!!
bring it on 2010...happy blue cant wait to see what surprises you have for her!
P.s- geez i hope santa doesnt plan on having any tea parties for his raindeer mates and invite me too! GEEZ LOUISE:P lol:)
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